How To Cultivate Self-Intimacy
By Anne Sophie Reinhardt, Body Confidence Expert
You cannot get to know yourself and truly have a deep understanding of your desire if you don’t have a practice of self-reflection, asking yourself the big questions, rewriting your story from one of victimhood to one of power. When you journal, focus on feelings, feelings and feelings.
How do you feel in any given situation? What are your emotions made up of? Where do you feel them? When do you feel them? The more you get in touch with your feelings the more you get in touch with your core.
If you’d like some journaling posts to get you started, here’s a great post giving you 25 prompts to find self-intimacy.
2. Take Action
In the real world just as much as in your head. No true self-intimacy can be acquired if you do not go out there, take action, make things happen and see how you react.
3. Stretch Your Comfort Zone
Stepping outside of your comfort zone, being adventurous, daring, doing things you’d never normally do will not only help you to create a sense of Self, but it’ll also enable you to see where your boundaries are, where you do want to go and what you truly – from your core, not from fear – do not want to pursue.
4. Let Go
Let go of relationships, fears, jobs, places, memories, friends, regrets and everything else that weighs you down, that stands in the way of you finding yourself, knowing yourself and seeing yourself.
There is nothing wrong or bad about letting go. It is part of life, it is part of personal growth and it is your right to do.
5. Unbelief Your Beliefs
Updating your beliefs by unbelieving what you’ve always thought was true about yourself is probably the biggest way to cut through the noise and get to your truest Self – the one that isn’t bound by fears, by societal convention, shoulds and have tos.
Playing with your beliefs, melting them away as you walk into your personal ring of fire, the one that we all walk through from time to time, gives way to freedom, power and your Self.
Who do you need to forgive? What do you need to forgive?
Holding on to grievances of the past is just another layer of mind clutter and emotional distraction and destruction that enables your social Self to run the show on fears and pretence.
You do not have to hold on to all of these things to continue living. In fact, if you want to live a good life, your best life, be true to yourself, forgive, forgive, forgive.
Tapping is a beautiful tool helping you forgive yourself and others and find the freedom and peace to continue life. Check out Tapping for Body-Confidence 101 here.
7. Change What Needs To Change
And you already know what needs to change, don’t you? You might be a bit scared, maybe hesitant to change, but you can. do. it. You are strong enough, you are worthy enough and you owe it to yourself – your core.
8. Take A Stand For Yourself
Do you ever take a stand for yourself or are you constantly trying to hide, making yourself smaller because you do not know your worth, believe that the less fuss you make the better?
Again, self-intimacy cannot be achieved if you do not take yourself seriously, if you do not realize your worth. Go back to journaling and journal until you feel confident enough to say yes, say no and hey, this is not OK with full confident, clarity and the unwavering knowledge of who you are.
Bonus Tip: Allow Yourself To Break Down
Don’t override self-intimacy by constantly trying to be strong. Strong is nothing more than yet another form of shaming yourself into being someone you are not. Allow yourself to fall apart, to break down because in those raw moments, that is exactly when you meet YOU.